From the Counselor’s Corner
What is Bullying?
Bullying is repeated aggressive behavior that can be physical, verbal, or relational. Boys frequently bully using physical threats and actions, while girls are more likely to engage in verbal or relationship bullying. Social Smarts Curriculum Begins at Grandview
The most damaging aspect of bullying is its repetition. Bullies are often relentless, bullying over and over again for long periods of time. You may live in constant fear of where and when the bully will strike next, what they’ll do, and how far they’ll go.
If you are being bullied, remember:
Don’t blame yourself. It is not your fault. No matter what someone says or does, you should not be ashamed of who you are or what you feel.
Be proud of who you are. Despite what a bully says, there are many wonderful things about you. Keep those in mind instead of the messages you hear from bullies.
Get help. Talk to a parent, teacher, counselor, or other trusted adult. Seeing a counselor does not mean there is something wrong with you.
Learn to deal with stress. Finding ways to relieve stress can make you more resilient so you won’t feel overwhelmed by bullying. Exercise, meditation, positive self-talk, muscle relaxation, and breathing exercises are all good ways to manage the stress from bullying.
Grandview intermediate students will be participating in Social Smarts lessons as part of our Positive Behavior Supports. The four guiding principals of the program, which were found on the program’s website: www.socialsmarts.com, are listed below.
The SocialSmarts program is based on the following four guiding principles:
• Positive social skills begins with consideration of others. It is this thinking "beyond oneself" that is the foundation for how we speak and act when interacting with others.
• Developing and exhibiting kindness and consideration in all dealings with others will ultimately make for a happier, safer, and more successful life for the child. This foundation of decent and appropriate behavior becomes even more important as the child grows into adulthood, as he or she enters the working world, contributes to society in various ways, and one day possibly parents a new generation of children.
• Kindness, consideration, and the resulting civility in behavior must not only be taught, but also must be practiced and reinforced by example in the family, in schools, and in the child's everyday world.
• Rather than dismiss manners and etiquette - which is defined by the Oxford English Dictionary as "the conventional rules of social behavior or professional conduct" - as old-fashioned, fussy, and irrelevant, SocialSmarts recognizes that we need to return to a more civilized period of behavior, where people are responsible and accountable for their words and actions. What we teach are the critical "social survival skills" that our children need to be successful now, in school, and later, as they transition from school to the adult world.